I am going crazy! i feel like i gave people bad impression ...for not turning up for some seminar. Someone Jus shoot me!
I seriously need a long weekend break! and this is my chance! after so many happenings in my Life work and all.. i need to breathe!
Went to swim and got tanned...yes! thats the way. but got to be often or else the colour will not last..hoping to go gym more often..haha..to continue to gain weight! haha Anyway...its been a long time since i hang out with people like Choy and Kong..was laughing non stop..talking abt poly life..haha. talking abt their lecturers...all indians..haha..noticed that most IT lecturers are indians..well..they are good.
Choy is the man..haha..damn lame..u guys are fun to hang out with..I feel really comfortable hanging out with these people..maybe we have been friends since sec sch days..and also we can openly say things we wanna say...and at times when we have no money..we will not feel shy to ask to have meals at roadside stores or hawker centres, like our all time favourite..Reasonable and authentic Beef Bowl! haha..CHOY's favourite.Choy u know best!.haha.. we even laugh at each other dressing!hahaha..i can be me..and tts good. haha..can also improve cantonese..cos they speak the dialect. haha
Sunday is gonna be a busy day..I wanna go down to "New church" for fundraising..but that is if its possible..as i have Music Practice at 12 noon and playing for service at 2pm.. then after got cell group....but in the morning...going to 4 seasons hotel for buffet! yaY!...haha looking forward to it.
Got this frm a email frm Eileen.
Hope wll benefit you readers some way or another..See tune in often to Tom's Blog!! haha
5 GOLDEN RULES FOR FINDING YOUR LIFE PARTNER (RABBI DOV HELLER, M.A.)
A relationships coach lays out his 5 golden rules for evaluating theprospects of long-term marital success. When it comes to making thedecision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake.
Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50 percent, it appears that manyare making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Ms.Right!
If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married,they'll say: "We're in love."
I believe this is the #1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing alife partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound notpolitically correct, there's a profound truth here.
Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result ofa good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the lovewill come.
Let me say it again: You can't build a lifetime relationship on Lovealone. You need a lot more. Here are five questions you must askyourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.
QUESTION 1:* Do we share a common life purpose?
Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do youplan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together?
You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need acommon life purpose.
Two things can happen in a marriage. You can grow together, or you cangrow apart. 50 percent of the people out there are growing apart. Tomake a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life bottomline-and marry someone who Wants the same thing.
QUESTION 2:* Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?
This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship.
Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. Thebasis of having good communication is trust - i.e. trust that I won'tget "punished" or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings.
A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom youfeel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings.
Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safewith the person you plan to marry.
QUESTION 3:* Is he/she a mensch?
A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can youtest?
Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regularbasis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of minedefines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good anddo the right thing."
So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Isthis person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someonewhose top priority is character refinement.
There are essentially two types of people in the world: People who arededicated to personal growth, and people who are dedicated to seekingcomfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will putpersonal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know thatbefore walking down the aisle.
QUESTION 4:* How does he/she treat other people?
The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is theability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another personpleasure.
Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are theywrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed?
To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat peoplewhom they do not have to be nice to, such as a waiters, bus boy, taxidriver, etc. How do they treat parents and siblings? Do they havegratitude and appreciation? If they don't have gratitude for the peoplewho have given them everything, you cannot expect that they'll havegratitude for you--who can't do nearly as much for them!
You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly, will eventuallytreat you poorly as well.
QUESTION 5:* Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we'remarried?
Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intentionof trying to "improve" them after they're married.
As a colleague of Mine puts it, "You can probably expect someone tochange after marriage ... for the worse!"
If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then youare not ready to marry them.
CONCLUSION
In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous.
The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less withyour heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating,to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues.Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring onyour finger, you don't want to find yourself in trouble because youdidn't do your homework.
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